Tools for Your Unfolding

Welcome to your private resource library.
These practices are organized by the chapters of the journey.
Start wherever you are. Return whenever you need.

Each chapter holds one current practice, tool, or ritual for every passage—reflecting the part of the story we’re actively exploring. The library shifts as the work does.

THE FIRST STIR

  • Pause. Sit down. Take a breath.
    Then scan these three areas:

    • Your thoughts: What’s looping? Where does your mind keep drifting back to?

    • Your body: Where feels buzzy, tight, activated, or heavy?

    • Your dreams (or daydreams): Has anything been repeating, showing up in strange ways, or trying to tell you something?

    You’re not trying to interpret anything yet.
    Just notice the noise. That’s it.

    Bonus: if it helps you stay present, describe the noise metaphorically—

    It feels like a foghorn in the back of my mind.
    It’s like a drawer that won’t close all the way.
    Like pacing energy in my legs with nowhere to go.


  • For a few days, keep a tiny log—written, audio, visual, whatever works for you.

    Each time something familiar repeats—emotionally, physically, energetically, or symbolically—jot it down.

    Here are a few examples of what to look for:

    • That same ache in your chest when you try to rest

    • The phrase that keeps popping into your head

    • A recurring image in your dreams

    • A color, song, or smell that keeps showing up

    • A body sensation you can’t quite shake

    You don’t need to know what it means.
    You’re not trying to decode it yet.
    You’re just gathering.

    Think of it like collecting puzzle pieces without forcing them to fit.
    You’ll see the picture when it’s ready.


  • This isn’t a journaling prompt—it’s a ritual.

    Find a quiet space. Place your hands on the part of your body where you’ve felt the most activity or tension lately.
    (Doesn’t have to be intense—just the place that’s been most present.)

    Close your eyes. Take three deep breaths.
    Then speak a simple sentence aloud:

    “This is the place where __________ lives.”

    Let the word fill in naturally. It might be “urgency,” “grief,” “confusion,” or something more symbolic like “the tightrope” or “the ache to be chosen.”

    Don’t overthink it. Whatever comes up first is enough.

    Once you’ve named it, sit with it for a minute—hands still resting there.


    Feel what shifts.

  • You can do this on your own—or follow along with the audio version I recorded for you: 👉 Listen to the Clearing Ritual Meditation (unlisted YouTube link. It’s super short—3 minutes or so.)

    Settle into a quiet space.Place your hands on the part of your body that feels most activated or tender right now.Close your eyes. Take a few slow breaths.

    Then picture yourself clearing space around that feeling:

    • Like sweeping the floor before guests arrive

    • Or like loosening the soil around a seed

    • Or opening a window to let some air in

    If any resistance or inner protectiveness comes up, you can say to it:

    “You’re safe. I’m just making space—nothing is being forced.”

    That’s all you’re doing. Making room. No fixing. No figuring out.

NAMING THE TENSION

  • Find a quiet moment to sit or lie down, and take a few slow breaths to settle.

    Then bring your attention to the tension you’ve started to notice—whether it’s a conflict, an inner push-pull, or a feeling of being stuck in-between.

    Now imagine your body as a landscape.
    Let the tension take shape in that space.

    • Is there a tight knot that feels like a steep hill or mountain pass?

    • Is there a flat field where things feel numb or unclear?

    • Maybe a tangled forest, a cracked desert, or a foggy valley?

    Let the imagery form naturally. You don’t have to force it to be poetic.
    Just ask:

    “What does this tension feel like… if it were a place inside me?”

    Once you’ve found the terrain, simply sit with it.
    You don’t need to analyze it or figure out how to cross it.
    Just be with it—like you’re standing at the edge, preparing to explore.

    This simple shift—from “What is this tension?” to “Where am I inside it?”—can help your whole system move from overwhelm to orientation.

  • Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the center.

    On one side, write:
    “This feels like mine.”
    On the other side, write:
    “This feels like it’s coming from the outside.”

    Now think about the situation or role where you feel most caught right now.

    Begin naming what belongs where—without overthinking.

    For example:

    • “The fear of disappointing people” → mine

    • “The unspoken expectation to be the one who holds it all together” → external

    • “My hesitation to speak up” → mine

    • “A workplace dynamic that rewards overfunctioning” → external

    This isn’t about blame. It’s about clarity.
    Because the clearer you are about what’s yours and what isn’t, the less energy you spend trying to fix the wrong things.

  • Take a few moments to drop in and ask:

    “What part of me is craving growth, change, or truth right now?”
    “And what part of me is pulling back or getting in the way?”

    Then give each of those parts a name or image—just something that helps them take shape.

    You might notice:

    • The Truth-Teller vs. The Peacekeeper

    • The Part That’s Ready to Be Seen vs. The Part That’s Afraid of Rejection

    • The Grown Version of You vs. The One Who Learned to Stay Small

    You don’t need to resolve the conflict today.
    Just begin to make space for both.

    This kind of inner tension isn’t a sign that something’s wrong.
    It’s a sign that something real is unfolding—because growth almost always asks us to hold multiple truths at once.

  • Take a moment to reflect on the tension you've been working with this month.

    Then ask yourself:

    “What belief might be sitting beneath this?”
    “What feels like a rule I’ve been following, even if I never consciously chose it?”

    Some examples:

    • “I’m not allowed to disappoint anyone.”

    • “My worth is tied to how much I do.”

    • “If I take up space, I’ll be rejected.”

    • “Being the calm one is how I stay safe.”

    • “It’s my job to make everyone else comfortable.”

    You might hear an old voice.
    A family message.
    Something you absorbed without ever agreeing to it.

    Name it—not to shame it, but to start reclaiming your truth.

STEPPING INTO THE STORY

  • Take a moment to sit with this question:

    “What animal, figure, or symbol has been showing up lately?”

    Not just in dreams—but in images, conversations, social media, memory, or repeated patterns in daily life.

    What keeps circling back to you?

    It might be:

    • A fox, eagle, or ZEBRA (iykyk)

    • A character from a movie or myth

    • A shape, tool, color, or elemental image

    • A recurring sensation or word that has energy behind it

    Once something comes to mind—follow the thread.


    Ask:

    • What does this image feel like in my body?

    • What qualities does it carry?

    • If this symbol is connected to a part of me that’s rising… what is it inviting me into?

    This isn’t about decoding the “right” meaning.
    It’s about letting the image be a doorway—into the energy that’s quietly trying to express through you.

    Even the wildest parts of you leave signs.

  • Instead of trying to figure out who you need to be—start by noticing what you need more of.

    Ask yourself:

    “What quality or energy would shift something for me right now?”

    Start with one of these paths:

    • Voice (Messenger): If you’re biting your tongue or holding back your truth.

    • Presence (Sovereign): If you’re shrinking, deferring, or hiding your power.

    • Space (Rebel): If something feels too tight and you’re ready to push back.

    But if none of these hit home, pause and ask:

    “What quality keeps tugging at me lately?”
    “What energy feels like it’s knocking on the door?”

    Trust that. That’s your archetype beginning to speak.

    Let it influence your posture, your tone, your choices—even the way you dress.

    See what shifts.
    That’s how the archetype begins to come alive.

  • Once you’ve gotten a feel for the archetype that’s stirring in you, let her speak through this simple frame. Don’t overthink it—just listen for what comes up when you tune in:

    Ask her…

    • What do you want me to STOP doing?
      (What habits, thoughts, or roles are no longer true for me?)

    • What do you want me to START doing?
      (What new way of being or showing up feels aligned with who I’m becoming?)

    • What do you want me to REMEMBER?
      (What truth about myself or what matters do I need to hold onto right now?)

    Let each answer be a small thread you carry with you this week. You don’t need to act on all of it—just recognize what’s shifting.

    You can do this as a journal entry, voice note, or even in front of a mirror if you're feeling bold.

  • Pick one small way to stay in connection with the archetype that’s been showing up for you—something you can return to when life gets loud or uncertain.

    Here’s how to make it real:

    • If your Rebel is rising, try clenching and releasing your fists, whispering “I don’t need permission,” or taking a sharp inhale and strong exhale to cut through the noise.

    • If it’s the Sovereign, stand tall with shoulders back, place your hand on your low belly, and say “I choose with clarity.” Let your breath be slow, steady, and grounded.

    • If your Lover is stirring, place one hand on your chest and one on your lower belly, breathe into both spaces, and say, “I soften into this moment.”

    • If your Messenger is waking up, tap your throat gently, breathe in through your nose and out through an open mouth, and speak your mantra: “My voice matters.”

    • If your Fool is ready to play, try a small wiggle in your hips or shoulders, a grin in the mirror, or a mantra like “Let’s see what happens.”

    You don’t need a perfect ritual.
    Just a gesture, breath, or phrase that feels like this part of you.
    Let it become your tether—a tiny thread of connection back to becoming more of yourself.